Did anyone happen to catch Dr. Oz’s show yesterday? Near the end of the show was a couple who’s 4 year old daughter weighed nearly 85 lbs!!! This poor little girl (who was spoiled rotten and adorable) was already suffering from high blood pressure (for her age) and pre-diabetes. They projected that by the time she was 18, she would weigh over 400 lbs.
Now, keep in mind, sure our natural reaction is to judge and accuse this mother and father, who are obese themselves, that their daughter’s weight problem is their own fault. We can cast stones (I won’t because I was well on my way to being in this mother’s shoes at one time). And in the short video clip of them talking about their lifestyle, both parents kept repeating, “It’s just easier…”
It was easier to let their daughter watch TV, it was easier to give in to giving her cookies and cake, it was easier to allow her to not play. They must have repeated it 20 times about various items. But I watched as this mother cried for the teasing, humiliation and bodily damage their “easier” choices had caused. Was it REALLY easier?
And who’s fault is it that it SEEMS easier to drive to a fast food restaurant than to pull out a chicken breast and bake it? It’s not cheaper, it’s not easier and it’s certainly NOT healthier…so why do we think it is?
Marketing…
Sure, we choose to buy into it (and I do mean ALL of us in one way or another) but big companies know how to prey on our desire for convience and ease. We long for comfort, not truth and convience instead of growth.
Take the Wii for example. While the Wii is a great video game console, we have one, and at least it gets people up DOING something instead of sitting, most of the games are NOT a workout, no matter how marketing tries to spin it. Sure there are some that will get you sweating (The Biggest Loser, SOME of the Wii Fit exercises, Let’s Dance, even some of the Raving Rabbits) but most don’t (I’d venture about 75% of the games DON’T). Yet adults are considering this exercise for their children. The Wii is NOT a substitute for involvement in sports or simply playing outside.
Or another example? I don’t care how much fiber they put into Fruit Loops, it’s not going to be a healthy choice for breakfast! You can make Reduced Fat, Sugar Free Oreos but they are not an option for afterschool snacks!
The one thing this mother kept repeating (and I hear this from nearly ALL the moms I’ve ever worked with) was that it was too hard to tell her daughter no to certain foods. That she just refused to eat anything else. At the risk of sounding “mean,” would you let them eat food from a dumpster if they asked? Of course not. But guess what Moms, you’re not doing your kids any favors by giving them this garbage either. Don’t want to hear them asking for it – DON’T BUY IT! If the “food” isn’t in the house, they won’t continue asking and refusing to eat (and neither will you!).
Sure, they are going to complain for a while. Of course you’ll hear “there’s nothing to eat in this house.” And they might even refuse to eat for a while but when they get hungry enough, they WILL eat what you serve. As with all parenting, be consistent and be patient.
Okay, enough ranting but it KILLS me to see what we have done to our children’s generation because of our selfish desire for what is “easier” for us. What will happen to THEM? I refuse to sacrifice my children’s health (and in some cases, their lives) for my own own convenience. I refuse to give in to cleverly deceptive marketing and WILL raise balanced healthy children and teach them to do the same and THINK!